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Could living with another single mom and her kids help you make ends meet? Here are some things to consider before house sharing with another family. Dear Gary, I am a newly single mom trying to make ends meet. My ex and I agreed that I would stay in the house with our two young kids, so as not to disrupt their lives any more than we already have. Even though he is paying everything agreed upon in our divorce settlement, it simply is not enough to support two households.
I have been considering looking for another single mom and kids to share housing with. Or perhaps a retired woman looking to share expenses would work. What is the best way to make such a living arrangement work? And how do I screen candidates? Any advice would be great. A Single Mom in FL. We asked readers to share any tips they have for successful house sharing, especially single moms who have lived wiht another single mom and her kids. Here is what they had to share:.
Make a chore chart, so everyone knows who is responsible for what on any given day. Split the cost of everything like cleaning supplies, electric, and water. Set aside a small area for a garden in the yard.
Subscribe to The Dollar Stretcher , our free twice-weekly newsletter aimed at helping you live better for less on the money you already have! Your :. I would start by asking your best girlfriends and your sisters. There are things you should think about before considering adding a person to your home. Sometimes they have a perspective that is hard for us to be aware of on our own. They know you best and would be able to point out things that will be important to you to discuss at your screening meetings.
They also might know someone suitable who is looking for a similar situation. Is this person going to be a tenant or a roommate? You need to decide this first before beginning your screening. Will this be a temporary or permanent lifestyle change?
The timeline will also influence your selection. If you expect it to be long term, then another single mom might be appropriate, as she will want her kids to have some stability. Decide what the atmosphere should be like for you and your kids. Do you want to specify ages or genders of children or their single parent? For a time, I had a male roommate who only had his kids on the weekend and that was a good fit for us. Do you want someone with a similar parenting style or are your kids okay with someone who indulges their kids more or less than what you do with yours?
How about someone who is willing to switch off babysitting, so you both are able to have a social life? Keeping clear on things is the key to a smooth co-habitation situation. Imagine how much simpler life could be if you were debt free. We can help you make a plan to get there. I feel for this young mom. I recommend finding a single, mature woman who is employed in a stable job. Definitely do a background and credit check, and make clear boundaries for her kids to follow as well as the renter. Last year, my son was looking to rent a house or apartment and found the cost of rent, utilities, etc.
He was discussing his search with a friend who owned his own home. Each buys their own food and prepares their own meals. However, they do share some common meals when their schedules permit. They also help each other out when circumstances present. Examples include transportation when a vehicle is in for servicing and sharing tools or appliances one has but the other does not, and sharing skills one has but the other does not.
This really helps the owner with his mortgage payment and my son with his expenditures as well. He recently paid off his student loans four years early. It is necessary for them to each respect the other and to keep their personal spaces separate. I got this idea after nearly losing my home when unreliable people moved out in the middle of the night. I contacted a few special needs associations close to my home and soon found out that there were special needs individuals that required a nice suite with a few amenities. Their caregivers look after them and everything they need including paying bills, rent, groceries, and house cleaning.
Many caregivers are paid to stay overnight and almost all of the individuals are out working and doing various activities during the day. A separate entrance is most agreeable and most special needs individuals stay for a long time in one place. I asked a lot of questions and asked for someone that was non-violent.
One fellow stayed for three years and never caused a problem. In fact, he loved to garden and I was the recipient of a lot of tomatoes! His caregiver picked him up in the morning and brought him home after work. Then another caregiver came in the evening and stayed overnight. I purchased a hide-a-bed sofa for the caregiver, and they were fine with that accommodation.
I was able to keep and maintain my home with no more problems from irresponsible tenants. Karen K. You contact the prospective sharers and discuss the details. Ask other people who share for advice about realistic expectations. Another option is to rent a spare bedroom to a well-behaved student who could babysit. You need to put any house rules into writing and get them ed by prospective tenant. You need to cover how much rent, utilities, cable, etc. You also need to establish rules about smoking, drinking, and drug usage.
Establish a quiet time. Also, consider rules about company of opposite gender and whether overnight guests are permitted or not. Will pets be allowed? You need to establish who does what and whether you are sharing food or not. I suggest you watch Judge Judy whenever you can. You will see issues that you never imagined. House Sharing with Another Single Mom with Kids We asked readers to share any tips they have for successful house sharing, especially single moms who have lived wiht another single mom and her kids.
Is debt cramping your lifestyle? Boundaries Important for Shared Housing I feel for this young mom. Share Common, But Keep Personal Spaces Separate Last year, my son was looking to rent a house or apartment and found the cost of rent, utilities, etc. Reviewed July Follow Us. On After50Finances. Pin It on Pinterest.Looking for another single mom
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